You can go to the doctor to determine your own health. You can take your car to a mechanic to check its health status. But what about your marriage? How do you check its health status? In fact, what defines a healthy marriage?
The University of Maryland has put together an extensive list of the qualities they feel are needed for a healthy marriage. It’s a good list as far as lists go, and the qualities mentioned are all important if you want a successful marriage. That’s not to say that one or two of those qualities could be left out, and your marriage still successful.
That then brings us back to how you define a healthy marriage. What is missing from that list are some of the simpler issues. Is happiness an indication of a healthy marriage? Unhappiness is certainly an indication of an unhealthy marriage.
In most instances, while check lists are good for gaining an in-depth assessment of a marriage – the reality is far more straightforward. Like our health, we often know when our marriage is in trouble. Communications seem to shut down and the atmosphere in the home isn’t quite right.
If you feel your marriage is in trouble, then consult a professional counselor who can help you assess the health of your marriage. In the meantime, if you really want to assess the health of your own marriage, start by assessing whether or not you are both happy. If you are, then you probably have little to worry about.