As little girls we often think about our “prince charming” and daydream about our wedding day. We imagine falling in love with a tall, dark, and handsome man, spending hours and hours with him, and getting proposed to in the most romantic way imaginable. As we get older we start wondering when and if this will ever happen. We start dating one loser after another, get our hearts broken, and continue the search for our soul mate-that one person in the universe we are meant to be with. All those fairy tales can’t be wrong; our soul mates have to be out there, right?
What if there was no such thing as a soul mate? What if there were more than one person suitable for each of us? What if instead of striving to find Mr. Perfect, we ended up with Mr. Right for Me? I’m not saying we should settle on just anyone. Of course we should find someone we love and with whom we are compatible. What I am saying is that instead of daydreaming of a soul mate – and waiting to be swept of our feet- we should be more proactive in our search for love and more forgiving of someone’s flaws. Even if you think you have found your prince charming, he may do something one day to disappoint you (like not notice your new haircut, or *gasp* forget the anniversary of the first time you kissed). It is important not to give us on the relationship or the person after such an incidence. Instead, forgive him and move on.
The “honeymoon phase” of a new relationship or marriage can fade quickly. Therefore, it is essential we find partners that we connect with on many levels, not just physically, but emotionally, mentally, and spiritually as well. These are the qualities that will make the relationship last. This brings me back to my original point-while the term “soul mate” may not be grounded in reality, there is definitely a person or people out there that may be the best match for each of us. The ability to be open to new experiences and new relationships is what will help us achieve our dreams of finding Mr. Right for Me.