You may wonder how pre-marriage counseling can save a marriage if the couple are not yet married – but it does. Statistics show that where couples have engaged in pre-marriage counseling, their failure rates are almost half the national average. That’s a huge drop in failure rates, but then, if you consider some of the issues that are addressed in pre-marriage counseling, you’ll see why success rates are so high.
One of the first things a marriage counselor will do with a couple considering marriage is to discuss their long-term goals, their plans for the future. This helps a couple concentrate on the future, and hopefully triggers some serious thinking. Young couples, in particular, tend to have a heads-in-the-clouds approach to marriage and the future – after all, they’re in love.
When considering the future, couples need to understand that their will be differences. They will suddenly come across habits their partner engages in that they simply don’t like. Being able to work out how to deal with these differences before you get married removes one of the biggest communication blockages for newlyweds – the fear of offending their partner.
Pre-marriage counseling therefore helps couples to come to a unified decision when it comes to long-range goals, helps to open communication channels for honest discussions of all issues, and provides the couple with conflict resolution skills for when differences emerge – and they will.
There are some states that encourage pre-marriage counseling, and some religions offer it as part of a marriage ceremony package. If you’re about to get married – start your marriage off on the right foot by undertaking pre-marriage counseling – you won’t regret it in the long run.