Modern society enjoys freedoms that our forefathers would not only frown upon, most likely condemn. Living together ‘out of holy wedlock’ is certainly one of those freedoms. It has come at a price, however, as couples who live together without the legal ties of marriage find it much easier to move on if the relationship doesn’t work out.
While many couples do move in and out of these unmarried relationships, there are many couples that are just as deeply committed to their relationship as any married couple. Their argument is that marriage is nothing but a piece of paper and they don’t need a piece of paper to be a family.
When it comes to marriage counseling, that piece of paper counts for nothing as well. It doesn’t matter if you’re married, thinking of getting married, just living together, or just thinking of living together. If you feel that marriage counseling is needed, then it’s available. To a counselor, the people in front of them are in a relationship. Many counselors are now changing their names from marriage counselor to relationship counselor to reflect our modern society.
For couples who are living together and experiencing difficulties, a marriage or relationship counselor can be quite effective in helping you deal with your problems. Opening communication channels, developing conflict resolution skills, and learning to empathize with each other makes a good start.
Counseling can be as long (or as short) as you require, and in most instances, can be arranged for times that suit your schedules. Just because you’re not married doesn’t mean you cannot access services such as marriage counseling – you can should if you feel your relationship is not working well.