There’s a normal push and pull in a marriage when each person tries to meet his own needs while also trying to meet his spouse’s needs. It’s a delicate balance when trying to do what is good for you but what is also good for the two of you as a couple. Sometimes, when people […]
It’s important to step back sometimes and ask, “How do I show my love to my spouse?” Then it’s equally important to ask, “When I do those things, does my spouse feel loved?” Sometimes there’s a big difference in what people to do show love and what makes their spouse feel loved. What Shows Love? […]
Sometimes couples begin to look more like squabbling siblings rather than loving partners when they compete with another. Although healthy competition can be a good thing in other areas of your life, ideally in the marriage, it is best if you can work together as a team without competing against each other. Competition in marriage […]
Communication is the key to a great marriage. However, many couples will say things such as “we don’t communicate well.” Communication is a skill that often needs fine tuning and ongoing practice. As your relationship grows, it is important that you continue to address problems in your communication. Improving your communication can make your relationship […]
Kids don’t cause marital problems. However, the stress caused by parenting can definitely create a rift in a marriage. If parents don’t work together as a team to help alleviate one another’s stress, the rift in the marriage can lead to separation or divorce. Throughout their 18 years of childhood, kids contribute to a lot […]
People often wonder why their relationship loses a spark after being married. However, sometimes if you look at how your behaviors have changed, it becomes evident. People tend to treat one another differently when they are dating compared to once they are married. How Do You Spend Your Time Together? What activities did you do […]
Stress takes a toll on your mood, your health and your relationships if you don’t learn how to manage your stress level. It is important to recognize when your stress level is increasing. Learning how to manage your stress is imperative to improving your quality of life and maintaining the health of your marriage. Everyone […]
Ever heard a person say that they just “fell out of love?” When you hear someone say that do you think “Oh that can happen?” Or do you think something more like, “That’s too bad they didn’t work hard enough?” The truth is, love isn’t something that just happens on its own. It also doesn’t […]
Ask 100 people what the purpose of marriage is and you might get 100 slightly different answers. It’s a question that many people may have never considered. Instead, getting married is something most people do because they want to but have never really thought much about what the purpose of marriage is. How Your View […]
There are four important areas that can predict long-term marital success. When couples agree on the basics about kids, money, in-laws, and faith, they are much more likely to remain happily married. They don’t need to agree on every aspect of these issues but sharing the same basic values about them can make a big […]
Like most seashore destinations, North Carolina’s Outer Banks region is beautiful in the summertime. The water is warm, the restaurants and stores are all open, and the sun seemingly shines every day. But, like most beach locations, it’s also crowded. June, July, and August are prime visiting time for families with children, and they come […]
Sometimes frustrations and anger can lead to a major blow up at your spouse. Often, people would never blow up at anyone else, however, their spouse gets the brunt of their anger. When people blow up, they may yell, scream, say rude things, or even make threats. When you blow up at your spouse, it […]
If there’s one thing for sure it’s that in life, there will be bumps in the road. How you handle life’s problems and stressors as a couple can make a big difference in the health of your marriage. Unfortunately, for some couples the stress of minor problems can tear their marriage apart. Take a look […]
Healthy people grow and change over time. As they learn new things, work toward improving themselves, and make decisions to better their lives, what they need from their spouse will inevitably change. Although it is normal for this process to happen, many people fear that the changes mean their spouse is no longer the same […]
I recently watched The Bucket List with Jack Nicholson and Morgan Freeman again. It reminded me that we often refuse to recognize that we’re getting older. Consequently, we get into trouble because we refuse to deal with it. So, if you’re over forty, here are some suggestions: The most important one is to realize that […]
There’s tons of research studies on relationships, love, and marriage. Most of them have one thing in common- they explain how making small changes can make a big difference. Check out these studies to see how smiling, a kiss before work, and a change in language can make a big difference in your marital satisfaction. […]
When married life doesn’t live up to one’s expectations, dissatisfaction can set in. Often this can lead to a person blaming their spouse for not making marriage everything they hoped it would be. It is often these feelings of disappointment that cause people to feel let down by the reality of marriage. Movies, books, and […]
There are lots of books that have hit the shelves lately that try to inspire people to quit their day job and follow their dreams. Books such as Quitter and the 4-Hour Work Week, encourage people to stop their day job in order to do something they are really passionate about. Although this can be […]
Marriage requires a variety of skills and tools in order for it to be successful. In addition to having the skills and tools, a successful marriage requires a lot of effort and hard work in applying these tools. Just like in any tool box, there will be some tools you use more often than others […]
Sometimes when the marriage gets rocky, couples agree to a separate for a while. However, the question becomes, does this help marriages or cause more problems? Research shows that in the vast majority of cases, separations do not help couples reconcile but instead, they end in divorce. So make sure to educate yourself first, before […]
