Do I Really Need A Marriage Counselor?
I’ll be blunt. If you have to ask that question, then in nine out ten situations the answer is yes. If you are having any doubts at all about your marriage, then you really should be talking to someone about those doubts. Ideally, you should be talking to your partner – if you can’t, then communication is a problem and may be the root cause of some of your problems.
In some cases, one-session marriage counseling is all that is required. In the one session, you may be able to determine the cause of your doubts and what strategies you require to put those doubts to rest. In some cases, you and your partner may require more intense therapy, especially if there are deeper issues at work.
Doubt can be a disease that works away at the mind. Doubt can turn the most innocent statements, actions, gestures, or even facial expressions into quite outlandish allegations. Over time, this will lead to conflict between you and your partner – a situation your partner will find difficult to fathom since they have done no wrong.
All marriages go through rough periods. The key to working through these rough patches is communication. If you talk to your partner about what is troubling you, you can both work through them to a satisfactory conclusion. If you cannot communicate your doubts to your partner, you really should speak to a marriage counselor. They will help you both develop those communication skills while also working on the underlying problems. Do you need a marriage counselor? Just asking suggests you do.
When I got home that night as my wife served dinner, I held her hand and said, I’ve got something to tell you. She sat down and ate quietly. Again I observed the hurt in her eyes.
Suddenly I didn’t know how to open my mouth. But I had to let her know what I was thinking. I want a divorce. I raised the topic calmly.
She didn’t seem to be annoyed by my words, instead she asked me softly, why?
I avoided her question. This made her angry. She threw away the chopsticks and shouted at me, you are not a man! That night, we didn’t talk to each other. She was weeping. I knew she wanted to find out what had happened to our marriage. But I could hardly give her a satisfactory answer; she had lost my heart to Jane. I didn’t love her anymore. I just pitied her!
With a deep sense of guilt, I drafted a divorce agreement which stated that she could own our house, our car, and 30% stake of my company.
She glanced at it and then tore it into pieces. The woman who had spent ten years of her life with me had become a stranger. I felt sorry for her wasted time, resources and energy but I could not take back what I had said for I loved Jane so dearly.
Finally she cried loudly in front of me, which was what I had expected to see. To me her cry was actually a kind of release. The idea of divorce which had obsessed me for several weeks seemed to be firmer and clearer now.
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