Archive for November, 2011

Is it Worth Arguing About?

There are times that it may make sense to give up the fight and not argue. If you’ve brought it up  to your partner in the past and nothing changes, can you accept that your partner may not change? Sometimes small disagreements continue over and over again yet nothing changes, and the arguments continue. Denise […]

Staying Connected After the Birth of a Baby

Many couples find themselves becoming distanced after the birth of their first baby. There are some strategies couples can use to help them stay connected after bringing home a new member of the family. It can take some extra time and effort to keep the intimacy and connection. Sometimes fathers feel left out when a […]

Identifying Underlying Fears Beneath the Conflict

Many conflicts arise out of fear. Identifying what these fears are can be helpful in establishing a solution. This can help you determine a course of action to address your fears while also working toward meeting your partner’s needs. When you disagree with your partner, ask yourself, “What am I afraid will happen if I […]

Chronic Anger and Irritability

Some people tend to behave crabby and irritable all the time. They are easily angered and let their frustrations be known. This can have serious negative consequences to all of their relationships, especially their marriage. People who always seem to be in a bad mood tend to point out minor inconveniences in life. They often […]

Don’t Get Stuck in a Rut

It can be easy to get stuck in a rut.  A couple’s calendar may be filled with the same activities month after month. Maybe each evening looks the same and each weekend looks like the last. Although there is a certain amount of comfort that comes with predictability, it can also become boring. It takes […]

Acting As If Your Marriage Was Great

Have you ever thought about what would be different if your marriage was great? What would you be doing differently? How would you be interacting differently with your spouse?  The answers to these questions are very important and can be helpful in determining strategies to improve your marriage. If your marriage was better would you be […]

Preparing for a Disaster #1

Are you prepared for a disaster?  What if there is a hurricane, fire, earthquake or tornado? Are you ready?  I want to begin to share some suggestions with you.  In terms of my background in this area, I have been Red Cross trained and am a member of my local Medical Service Corps.  I am […]

How to Keep Unemployment from Causing Marital Problems

Unemployment can be a big stressor for anyone. The stress can create marital problems if it is not handled appropropriately. If you become unemployed, it’s essential that you learn how to manage yourself and your stress so that you don’t create more stress for your partner. When people lose their job, they often become disoriented. […]

The Power of Brainstorming

Couples who struggle to resolve problems can benefit greatly from brainstorming. Although brainstorming was first invented for use in the business world, it has been found to be effective with relationships as well. Brainstorming can be used for a variety of issues and can ensure that both people are able to express their ideas. Brainstorming […]